Dear Dr. June: My first year in college I met a student who was just starting college also. We talked but not to be more than friends. When we would see each other she was always so friendly and I started liking her more than just a friend. I found out that she really likes this other dude who plays sports. I want to ask her out but it may be too late? What if your crush has a crush on another person?
— Serious Crush, Lakeland, Florida
Dear Crush: There are a couple things I find interesting. One is you have regular contact with the person yet you have made no attempt to take it to the next level beyond friendship. Another is you found out she has a crush. That means nothing. It may just be “he’s cute” type of thing; plus, does he have any interest in her? In life we sometimes have to take a chance whether we win or lose. In fact, isn’t there an expression “you snooze, you lose?” I think you should wake up and see where the friendship goes before possible romance is lost for good.
Dear Dr. June: I’ve been in some good relationships and not so good relationships. I understand that is a part of life. What I don’t understand is why do most females hide their feelings and don’t just tell you what’s wrong. If I could deal with that, maybe it would help my relationships.
— Phil in Florida
Dear Phil: Who knows if that will help your relationships, but I truly believe it will help relationships in general if the ladies would just say what’s on their minds. I think ladies don’t say it at first because they want their men to be somewhat like mind readers and automatically know what’s wrong. Ridiculous. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about that until they come to the realization that’s not the best route to take. So, ladies communication is the key. If he asks what’s wrong, share it as calmly as you can. Then you can get it off your chest, discuss it, and move forward to enjoyment of the relationship. Harboring a problem just turns into an unnecessary blow out later. Get it together, ladies. Phil, just be patient and learn how to simply say, “Okay, honey.”
— Dr. June Hall is an author and motivational coach who has reached millions through her advice column and public speaking engagements. If you have questions for Dr. June, contact her at www.junehall.com.